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Buy some story books for the grandparents to read. Explain that you want Bible stories to come only from you
One of the difficulties in parenting and especially parenting a challenging child is that we feel continiously being judged , if not by grandparents, relatives, even friends and strangers in the mall = when you kid is having a meltdown.    These negative thoughts and experiences really get to us-  I usually say to myself  - if he has a problem with my son , it is his problem and in truth ' they don't really care ' and after the count of 10 have forgotten about...
For me - GD  are working with approaches= proactive + collaborative problem solving , rather than doing to = reactive + rewards, punishments , consequences . Limit setting is collaborative and not the parent alone. Difficulties and challenges are more about lagging skills and unmet concerns rather than wanting to test limits.   My favourites  - the how of GD  are books by Ross Greene - the CPS collaborative problem solving approach  his site...
Hi, check my reply to the thread - book recommendations for 9 yo  CPS - collaborative problem solving appraoch by Ross Greene , Myrna Shure has a problem solving book for kids up to 7   http://tinyurl.com/dytwnyu - an eg of using CPS with a 3yo  Playful parenting L cohen    talking does not help , because we do the talking , the kid speaks , we direct with questions  lower the rope ,your expectations, and create an environment that is safe - you need to be...
Hi, You seem to be working in the right direction with your challenging child. I recommend the CPS - collaborative problem solving approach - Ross Greene - the latest edition of his books - the best Lost at school = great for parents in the home as well , the explosive child  - see vdeo clips of the cps process below     http://tinyurl.com/c7chvj7 2  Mindfulness for children -  Susan Kaiser Greenland -  the above blog has articles on this as well  -  this helps...
Before I try a family meeting , I would first do a one on one CPS - collaborative problem solving. The idea is to hear and listen -  we want to get your dd's concerns on the table , take it slow and listen without judgement so the kid feels understood . Next -put your concerns on the table , define the problem and brain storm solutions . Then see if you bring them together and you facilitate discussion.   The problem with family meetings is that they need structure....
Hi,   Joe Bower's blog is a must for both teachers and parents as he shares his progressive approach to academics and socio-moral learning ( discipline ) He has written several blogs sharing his collaborative problem solving experiences . His new post is great . Gentle discipline is all about going slow and being very patient      http://www.joebower.org/2012/07/working-with-children-when-they-are-at.html
I like using posters, schedules and list which we as a family together make to help us be more organized . It is the list telling us what to do , not me. This also helps the kid to identify with the value and the caring behind any activity as we are working together , their perspectives and concerns are important. Whining is a behavior , we want to solve the actual problem underlying the behavior . So out of the moment we can do some CPS - collaborative problem solving...
My favourite -  books by Ross Greene - the CPS - collaborative problem solving approach - ' the explosive child , lost at school . His web site http://livesinthebalance.org  has plenty of info. Although his book is mainly for challenging kids , all kids can benefit . I call his work - the how of GD   Myrna Shure's books also focusing on problem solving    Unconditional Parenting - Alfie Kohn , also about the why - I think it is important to believe in the approach 
Focus on a ' working with , giuded participation, collaborative problem , transcending basic living into a learning experience , consult her , let her feel part of the decision making process - her concerns and perspectives are important , talk in the plural we or our family , share your feelings, perspectives and then ask what does she think 
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