Posts by othermother109

Dog gone it! I wasn't getting any notifications that there were replies... Oh well. I'm glad you love it. Me too!  

I can't remember the name of the book or woman, but I sent out an e-mail query to people in my foster parent group. I'll post if someone remembers. I just remember being angry that such a ridiculous concept was being given any credence.

After the adoption was finalized they could take the child back? How incredibly awful! If I'd had that risk, I wouldn't have gone through foster-adopt either.    The pain that men and women go through to become parents....

Thank you, QueenJane for your very thoughtful response. I expect that if you are guaranteed a legally-adoptable child, and can afford it, that would be the way to go.  The heartbreak factor must be the key. And it is...

I just realized how that sounded. I apologize. It definitely is not exceptionally good that so many children come into care. What is good is that the county workers truly care about both the children and the foster parents and try to...

Oh, I do agree. It can be very hard and I've had heart-breaking things happen to friends. I guess, perhaps what I'm asking is... It seems like a lot of people try out-of-country adoptions first. Aren't there a lot of heartbreaks with...

I am white and my son's birth parents were from Mexico. The question I get most often is, "Are you his real mom?" What I do is give them a puzzled look, poke at my arm as if to see if it's solid, and then look at them again. "Yes, I'm...

This is something I've wondered for a long time. I don't know anyone who has gone through an out-of-country adoption, so I'm very curious. My process went so well through foster care that I wonder why everyone doesn't go that way. I do...

IncompetentHousewife I just read your post on another thread and I've got to say, incompetent just doesn't go with the way you write. :)   I am "Carolyn Nash." That's my pen name. I'm so sorry your child was hurt. If you...

Incompetent Housewife. I take issue with your name choice. Your essay above is beautiful and I cannot see ANY signs that "incompetent" is a good name for you. I'm so glad it's working out for you with your baby. That's such a great...