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  Hi!  Good luck on your upcoming adventure.   I was worried about this also before our twins were born.  Now, with some experience, I say:  don't worry about it.  The term "identical" is misleading, "monozygotic" is a more accurate word.  Your children will be genetically identical, but small variations in the uterine environment will inevitably lead to differences in their appearance - their heads may be shaped differently, they may develop different moles, and so on....
Hi, A!   I can't offer you any particular solace on the loss of your natural birth options, since I'm not a true believer that way. What I can say is that you are starting on a great adventure, and I wish you all the best.  Assuming everything goes well (and with good medical care, that's pretty likely!) you are going to have a unique family situation that will be thrilling, frustrating, exciting, sleepless, bewildering, and generally awesome.   And as the dad of...
Glad to hear things are going well.  Keep on with your regular ultrasounds.  Good luck!
    I would phrase it as "If you have TTTS before 24 weeks and are not aware of it, you are doomed."   I agree that you need to figure out a way to find a referral to an MFM specialist who knows what they are doing.   One way to finesse this is to arrange for CVS (as opposed to amniocentesis).  Since CVS happens earlier in the pregnancy, you will end up having the diagnostic ultrasounds earlier as well.
Upon re-reading my comment, I can see that it could be read as insulting, and I absolutely apologize.  That wasn't my intent.
A doula is not a babysitter.  I think asking one to work as one is a bad idea.   (I also think that "DD", in the context of a 6 year old at a birth, should stand for "Dear Disease-vector", but I'm a pessimist, and it's not my decision.)
  I have to disagree here with you on a few points.  This may make me a little unpopular.  I apologize in advance.   First off, in terms of the pain caused or not caused, it's perfectly valid to compare childbirth to other potentially painful procedures or trauma that can happen to a human body.  I'm aware that we all like to get misty-eyed about the incredible beauty of this miraculous event blah blah - I did it a little myself a few posts ago.  But if you step away from...
Hi, Knicole.  Father of preemie twins here.  Hang in there.  It is normal to feel a raft of confused emotions when your got-here-too-soon baby is in an isolette.  But take it one day at a time and don't give up.  In a few years when you have a big healthy boy running around the house you'll look back on this and wonder how you made it through - but you will.  One day at a time.
  A husband and father here dropping in to opine.  I totally don't get this attitude - your friend is strong and smart and getting pain relief doesn't in any way diminish that.  To put this in perspective, if one of my male co-workers said to me "I'm getting a root canal tomorrow, and I've decided to get novocaine and whatever other pain relief is available" I certainly wouldn't think to myself "Pfffft, what a wimp and a loser that guy is.  If he was a real man he'd just...
I'll be the sourpuss: I'm against the midwife bringing her kids to your birth.   First off, let's be honest:  school-age children are, universally, filthy little disease vectors, and you should at least get a few feedings in before exposing your newborn to them.   Second, if there is an emergency regarding the visiting child, the midwife will not be able to focus on her job.  I don't care how professional she is, that's just human nature.  So find a midwife who...
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