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  I feel like this is an issue that needs some exploration, because I think those statements propagate a pretty fundamental misunderstanding about what a healthy relationship is about.   First, I will begin with a disclaimer:  i have no doubt that such a thing as "porn addiction" exists, in the same way that Fruity Pebbles addiction can exist.  If your usage of something is compulsive, or interferes with (say) one's work or a healthy relationship with one's spouse or...
I agree with "Don't panic."  The statement "My 12 year old looked at porn" is sort of on the same level as "I went outside, and the sky was blue."  12 years olds are just starting to explore their sexuality, and looking for information on it is one way they do it.  Porn is one sort of information on sexuality.   The solution is to fill the vacuum with positive and age-appropriate information, avoid shaming her, and keep an eye on her online activity.   I don't...
Seriously, don't worry about whether you're following the advice of whatever dumb book is the hip advice du jour. You are a great mother and your kids are gonna love you regardless. You know more than any book, and your babies are tougher than they look. They'll be fine.
I said I was going to stay out this, but you are giving false information again, so now I have to respond. First off, she did not fail to explain how the polyhydramnios developed.  She explained it in painstaking detail.  You simply did not understand it.  The a/v anastomoses are the mechanism by which the polyhydramnios develops.  One baby is shunting blood to the other one.  The baby that is the recipient has a higher blood pressure.   This makes their kidneys work...
  Obviously, it's your pregnancy, so you can make your own decisions.  However, as the father of twins who survived TTTS, I'm compelled to correct what you're saying for the sake of others who are reading this.  Had I believed what you wrote (essentially, that early-stage TTTS is invariably fatal, and you'd surely detect it without ultrasounds anyway, so why bother?) my children would be dead.  Ultrasounds do detect TTTS when the mother doesn't realize it's an issue, and...
  Aiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeee.  No.  This isn't right.  TTTS is essentially a condition where, because of the configuration of blood vessels between the twins and the placenta, one twin's heart is basically pumping blood for both of them.  If that sounds romantic, it's not.  In a non-TTTS configuration, enough arteries are anastomosing to arteries and veins to veins that the blood pressures basically cancel out (which is good).  In a TTTS configuration, one twins' arterial...
With all due respect, given your comment about lopsided-ness and your wondering about TTTS, I think you should get an actual diagnostic ultrasound.  The mortality rates for TTTS are stunningly high.  Speaking from experience, if your babies do have have twin-to-twin, you need to know that as soon as possible to give them a chance.     More generally, the moment you are in a multiples situation, you want to try to get an actual understanding of the plumbing.  Some of...
The "breech is a variation of normal" statement sort of infuriates me because it is so content-free.  Twin births are already inherently higher-risk than singletons.  Vaginal breech births (of singletons) is associated with a higher risk of perintal and neonatal infant mortality than elective C-section (source: http://www.sogc.org/guidelines/documents/gui226CPG0906.pdf).  Please, please, don't go to the Internet for health advice on this.  Consult with your doctor and ask...
I'm not gonna stand here and defend bad medicine -- you've had bad doctors, I've had bad doctors, we've all had bad doctors.  I just feel like someone has to say that "some OBs are bad" isn't the same thing as "OBs are bad."  
And this is where we can see the fundamental misunderstanding in action.   Mothers do not need intervention ... except when they do. Babies can be born without problems ... except when they can't.   An OB's primary job is not to respond to emergencies, although they do that too.  An OB's primary job is to prevent the emergency from developing in the first place.  That's worth saying again:  Obstrectic medicine is primarily preventive in nature.  The reason OB's engage...
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