Posts by Kmack1

  Been a while since an update, but finally a couple weeks ago we had a real Doctor do a full diagnosis on the niece.  We did discover she has a learning disability and ADHD.     On a sad note, I've left home...

Yah I do get what you mean there, and it definitely got me to thinking.  I guess I just thought that since she went through a similar thing (adopted young, her mom died early) and her foster mother was tough on her.  Even now...

Hey All,   Thanks for all the great responses!  I feel a bit odd posting on a Mother forum here, with just women, but so far I think it may have been the most help for me.  Thank you for that.  :)   We...

We were pretty confident with knowing that she has reactive attachment disorder.. things started to go a little bit smoother.. less defiance, we no longer raised our voice.  I at least thought we had a pretty good idea of what we...

It's actually a court order than the Bmom hasn't seen the child since November.  There was a police investigation from November to February regarding some potential inappropriate behavior from the bmom and the child but it was...

We went to go see the therapist last night, and she pretty much knew already that the child has RAD.  (perplexes me that nobody had told us the seriousness of it)  She asked my wife and I to sit down for an hour, discuss an...

Thanks for all your very helpful replies.  I did do some reading on child attachment disorders and this sounds like my niece, to a tee. Found that after reading the signs, this is her to an absolute tee.  She has every...

Yes, I totally agree with you guys on that point that she is trying to sabotage her placement because she does feel like she is on borrowed time.  I have toned down raising my voice and reacting to her.  My guess, is that a...

Thank you so much for the insight, really appreciate it.   Yes, sorry, she is my wife's niece.. kind of.   My wife was adopted so they're not exactly blood but my wife had been very defensive of her sister over the...

Hi Guys,   My wife and I have had my wife's sister's daughter, who is now 7 years old, for about a year now.  When we first got her, there was a lot of defiance, talking back, trying to talk over my wife, etc.. but it's...