I would try and find housing as close to DH's job as possible.
Getting around stinks. I cringe whenever I have to get on the freeway, because without a doubt there will be traffic somewhere along the way.
IMO, Bart is not nice, I would always choose the ferry, however I don't know all the routes and if that would be an option for you. Personally, I would not live in the East Bay & want to commute to SouthSF. I think you would definitely want to limit...