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Child support and visitation are 2 totally different cases in the state of which my SD was born.  We went to court and got support set up for my husband and his high school girlfriend after we got married.  We had backpay and we paid the support through the court.  We didn't live in that state so we didn't got back to do visitation b/c her mom let her visit as much as we paid to come and get her.  We were only about 8 hours away at the time.  We went every 3 day weekend...
Mummoth, I completely agree with you.  Like I said, I think I'd do the same in her position.  The problem is her not answering calls from them, or us for that matter, to ask about going to the park, or something public at all.  So the 90th BDay party is a stretch.  I know she feels like she doesn't owe them anything, b/c they haven't been apart of their lives or done anything for her.  The only time she goes to my mom's is when I tell her my SD has presents over there. ...
We live on one side on the US, and our families and my step daughter lives on the other side of the US. My SD lives with her mother.  They go and visit my mother on occasions, ie birthdays, holiday, softball games.  My mom really doesn't call too much.  I pretty much ask the questions and my mom asks me to call and ask if she can come or if they can come over.  My mom would call, but she is the shy type, so I pretty much just take care of it. I have a pretty "normal"...
I was diagnosed with Hypothyriodism and put on Synthroid.  That didn't work so they sent me to a specialist and put me on Armour.  I have only been taking it a week, and he told me to do do a low carb/no card diet.  This is really hard, considering all I eat is carbs.  I really need help, b/c my husband has agreed to do this with me.  I need help on some meals that can be a life changing thing for my husband and girls.  Please help. 
My daughter beats up on herself for about anything.  My stepdaughter lives with her mom, but if my 7 yr old and my 3 yr old get a prize, my stepdaughter gets one as well and we ship it.  So even though she is not a middle child, she still is a middle child.  Anyways, to the point now.  She is a really great kid.  She did 1/2 a semester of Kindergarden, and then did the 2nd semester in 1st grade.  Now she is in 2nd grade.  She is such a sweet and polite child, but she is...
As a commuting family, we have very little time at home.  We leave the house at 6am and don't get home till after 6pm.  I have 2 children living at home, 7 and 3.  I started making a "Chore Chart" that only has 7 chores on it.  They get a sticker of their choosing.  These little girls love having their stickers on their chart on the frig.  It is the best reward I could possibly give them.  They are to do these chores while I am cooking dinner.  They each have their own...
UPDATE:  So I was able to talk to my stepdaughter's mother.  I explained to her my thoughts.  She said that is how she was treated, but she is def not in a spot to be able to reward her with grades.  She said all she can do is reward her with a sleepover with friends.  When I was a kids I used to get $20 for all A's on a report card and mom would let me spend that on extra's at a movie for my hard work.  She said that she doesn't disagree with me for any reason.  That...
UPDATE:  So I did back away from "nagging" to my husband to be more involved.  I told him that I was backing away, that he needed to be more involved.  I did purchase the typical birthday gifts, and I'm still doing my regular stuff.  I just don't say anything to him about it.  I told my SD's mom what I told my husband.  She said it was a good move.  I am still doing my typical.  My SD is texting me saying she got whatever and she loves it, whether she does or not.  She...
Being miliary, we move a lot.  Kids adapt so well.  It's hard for the first month or so, but they get new rooms, and all kind of stuff.  My children love to move.  10 miles away is not what they are used to, but everyone appreciates change in some form or fashion.  Good Luck and Congrats. 
I don't have an answer to this question.  When I asked him to take care of it, b/c that is what she wants, he got mad at me.  He said I have always done it in the past.  That is why I am asking for advice here of what I can do without causing an even bigger fight with my husband.    
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