Been with my Aspy 10 year old stepson going on 3 yrs. It's beyond challenging. He is always the elephant in the room. I love my husband very much but we need counseling. He goes back and forth between denying there is a problem which leads to arguing between us and overreacting to his son being "weird." he keeps thinking with sports and this or that he can make him " normal.." my stepson hears his father disagree and undermine what I say, so my point or progress is lost.