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Cocobird, I was wondering if it is important to you that she accept the diagnosis quickly and if so why?    Yes, there may be books or tv shows she can watch to help her understand herself and ultimately accept herself better but this is going to be a long process of self understanding for her and for you.    You may be connecting some of her behaviors that you misunderstood before to her new diagnosis and reframing this in your mind will change the way you react to...
And I just wanted to add MaggieLC, that my son remembers incidents of being hurt by other children too.  (Yikes, another boy once tried to set him on fire with a lighter....can you believe it??) But he also remembers how the situations were handled.  I think that's the key to remaining emotionally unharmed.  He remembers being heard and listened to by grown ups, he remembers the apology from the other children and the times he has been tempted to hold a grudge, it is a...
I think, MaggieLC, you just have to trust that the OP, when consulting with her experts, got a good working plan that she's confident in.  To me, when you consult a psychologist and a behavioral specialist, you are doing the best you can do for your child.  That's the opposite of ignoring a situation.  Nor did she seem unaware of the impact of her son's behavior on others because she is even willing to institute an expensive and hard to maintain diet to bring about...
There's so much emotion in this for you Maggie LC.  I can hear how hard this is for you to write about in regard to your children.    But, in reading through the OP's statements I am not reading them the way that you do.    I am comfortable with a behavioral approach.  Children who are "reactive" can not have their negative behavior reenforced.  I think what may be tripping you up is the use of the word "ignore".  A limit is being set by adults when this child who is...
In fairness to the OP, given that she's getting a lot of input about her son's aggressiveness and how it relates to the other children in the preschool, it IS very common for children to developmentally go through a hitting, pinching and pushing PHASE, especially in response to stress, confusion, and sensory overload.  It does not make a young 3 year old child a bully, an aggressor, or even hostile, as always, children at that very YOUNG tender age have not developed...
Yay!!  I'm so happy to hear from you.  I was just thinking about you yesterday.  I know that sounds funny, on an internet forum, but, I so relate to the struggle of whether the diet helps or not and I was wondering how your son was doing.   My son has now been on the diet for almost 4 years and he's still growing and developing in amazing ways which I don't think would be possible without dietary intervention.   He's about to have a neuropsych and I think that the...
HI Expat-Mama, I happen to like the plan come up with by your specialists.  Often children who are sensory sensitive and sensory reactive organize themselves around reactions to their behavior and it can be oddly calming because it's predicatable.  You hit, you get chastised.  You'd rather he organize himself around positive reactions which are calming and give him feedback for modulating himself.  As long as "ignoring" his hitting doesn't mean just redirecting.  Did your...
Sageowl, I think part of the problem is that they're overseas....no IEP's....
Contact Maya, Dr. Amen has done some interesting work, to compare scans of brains of people with certain disorders, to those without, to scan the brains of those taking certain supplements and compare them to those who do not.   Like most things that can be learned about from books and online (I have his books and he does PBS specials as well) there's a difference between the kind of cutting edge work he is doing and well established best practices for diagnosis.  I am...
Every child on the spectrum is different.   My son on the spectrum IS able to learn social interaction easily and well when he can concentrate on interaction and only interaction.  A play based preschool was marvelous for him, as was summer camp during the regular school year, where he'd make huge leaps in social skill.   Like your son, he's on the "milder" end of the spectrum and likely has the social communication disorder diagnosis that will be given to many kids who...
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