Posts by rubelin

I haven't done this specific program, but I've done other of Katharine's work (and a very lot of similar personal development work) and heard some of the mini-seminars she did about this course. I'd recommend it and think it would be...

you should def. see a lawyer first, and if you can get a JAG, all the better.   Always request the max child/spousal support that the law allows - it's generally dependent on your state guidelines, but is probably different...

the divorce pretty much renders any family plans you made in the past null and void. You don't need to go on a family trip when you are no longer his family. And you don't have to pay anything for your children to visit his...

maybe you could send her a note at work. I imagine it would mean a lot to her to know that you're understanding of her side and that your kids love her and would like to continue having a relationship with her.   Just thinking...

Do you have enough of a relationship with her that you could arrange to have her come visit with the kids?? That might be too painful for her right now, but it could give them and her some comfort that their relationship isn't...

yup, totally separate things.   He has a legal responsibility to provide financially for the child he created.   It is generally in a child's best interest to have a good relationship with both their parents but it's...

I'm so sorry for the circumstances that brought you here but welcome to the tribe =)

Quote: Originally Posted by anon_abroad  Ugh, the feeling is awful, it's like a heavy weight. What I am unrealistically hoping for is that I REALISE that the court decided our separation agreement, I have rights, I...

a lot of times, my completely irrational fear when I have an altercation with my XH is just residual anxiety about having an altercation - regardless of what it's about. It just brings up every fear that I've ever had about divorce and...

((hugs)) I think it's time that you talk yourself INTO filing for custody and to start doing exchanges only in public places (like the park) and to stop spending any time with each other.  There is no reason why you have to...