Thanks, rubelin. This is really helpful. And YES, I relate to that quote about trying to fix things. I feel like I have a chance to make a better life for all of us, even though it might be hard at first.
I've been a very longtime reader of these forums and have learned so much. This is my first post and any advice or food for thought is welcome.
My husband and I have two children, ages 2 and almost 5. Our marriage has been...