For everyone asking for the recipe for the cupcakes, here it is: http://www.howsweeteats.com/2013/02/dark-chocolate-fudge-merlot-cupcakes/
It was super easy and they're really, really, REALLY good. Be prepared for the frosting to be a bit liquid though due to the wine. I don't normally put cupcakes with a buttercream in the fridge but I did for these for that reason and they've been fine so far.
Ns, I'm so sorry for yours and DH's loss.