If you truly consider yourself deep down to be the mom's friend, next time you're alone with her ask her "how she's doing?" rather than letting the focus be on the child. She seems like she's truly suffering ..
If these are your hubby's...
I'm 5'1 and petite. I've tried maany carriers and the one that worked the best, hands-down, head and shoulders above the rest was the Beco Gemini. Ergo did not work. Yet, I began using carriers at 4 mos. not 1 yr so...
Stick as close to raw foods as possible. Sting beans with grated parm cheese may b funfor dipping for kids..
I have many allergies myself am vegetarian n hubby is picky. Maybe ur hubby shld b tested for an ulcer? In any case, Good luck!