Posts by alianmama

I can relate to the exhaustion big time. I have ds's 9 & 15 & now raising my nieces 2 & 3, and I'm single, working (teaching) FT & taking graduate level courses FT. Psychologically, kids will act out with the...

Sorry to come off as negative, but when someone's behavior changes drastically for the negative, and then deflects questions and tries to make YOU, the questioner, out to be the 'bad guy' there is much reason for suspicion. For that...

Hot damn, Jeff, you've got some fabulous ideas! Where can I buy in? I have a GREAT sob story! And the crazy thing is that it's completely true! 2 years ago my sister had a brain tumor, just weeks after giving birth to her 2nd baby girl...

:LOL :LOL :LOL :LOL !!!!!!!!! This just means your ex and his stupid cow are even dumber than you thought they were!!! Hee heee heee! Just laugh about it, honey! Go ahead and do a deep belly laugh, and while you're at it, let...

If he's a totally nasty creep, move and bid him good riddance. If he is a decent human being, but you just don't want to be with him, consider what kind of part-time dad he would likely be. If decent, get a paternity test, get child...

I'm a mama who lives in the boonies too! Damn, you sound absolutely furious! I have been there and truly understand. I've laid awake at night fuming, blood pounding, fantasizing all the things I wanted to say to him & a few...

read my reply to "question for divorced mamas"- it relates perfectly to what you're asking! Bottom line- your life isn't an experiment that you can repeat if you don't get it right the first time. Be happy and share...

when I'm sad & feeling lonely, I find myself berating myself & thinking "oh, I COULD have worked it out after all, really!" but honestly, that internal response doesn't last. In the end, I am a happier person and...

Tell right away. Be proud of being a mom, be proud to have your child. Last thing single moms need is a guy who got hooked on the woman, and are reluctant to let go once they've got 'the good stuff' w/her, and simply tolerate the...

Joing LEGAL custody is the norm; the other parent has to be really screwed up to be refused joint legal, meaning both parents have the right to input re determine religious, eductional and health issues. Joint PHYSICAL custody is more...