Posts by monkeybum

Hi Vertigo, just wanted to send you some virtual hugs and tell you to stay strong.  You are in a really tough situation, but I know you can beat this, and prove him wrong!  Being a mom (and an single one at that) is the...

Hooray!  Good for you!  I know how hard making that step is...you'll have your ups and downs for sure, but try to grab on to one of those "a-ha" moments that made you realize you had to leave, and remember it any time you...

I'm working on our Separation Agreement and trying to figure out what to put in for the boys visitation with their dad.  It's unsupervised and he probably won't want them overnight.  They do better 1:1 with him than together,...

I just want to thank you so very much for writing this post.  Really.  It made me cry, but in a good (hopeful) way!  Hugs, and a huge thank you! :)

Thanks everyone for your responses, I truly appreciate it. Some good things to think about and look in to.   So, I often feel overwhelmed, scared and trapped by what I'll need to do to get out of this situation and when...

Thanks Petronella.  :(  My lawyer says to definitely not leave with the kids and there is no way I would ever leave without them.  Her advice is the same as the other 2 lawyers and judge I spoke to - I can't "make" him...

Thanks Mom31.  I have retained the lawyer and she is great, I do really like her.  She knows her stuff.  But people - lawyers, my family, police - all seem to think either it's not bad enough to leave (i.e....

Thanks all.  I do have a lawyer, but apparently if I move out with the kids (which had been my plan - either rent or try to find somewhere to stay) it causes all kinds of problems.  The laws are complicated here - if one...

I have been married to my STBX for 12 years.  We've been to counseling many times over several years and by the last session the most recent counselor said he didn't know why we stayed married and that he couldn't help...

MammaColleen, I am in a very similar boat to you - primary breadwinner, we'd be living under the poverty line if we survived only on DH's salary, and I find it very, very stressful.  Just feeling like I have to work and I have to...