GREETINGS! I had to reregister here about a year back to respond to a msg about trying to continue a marriage after an affair. seems every time i come back here once every year or two, i just cannot find my account.
wow, it is something getting a notice in my email that this thread is goingagain- makes you look back and see where you are, to where you were- and it was all 3 years ago for me, but still the story is developing.
my overwhelming reason for not holding on was that he believes it was my fault that he cheated on me- some of his words were "you reap what you sow" "you got exactly what you deserved" etc. really abusive language :
so i can see where the situation is...
it always hurts my heart to hear of such a thing. that a man would disregard the woman who is bearing his child and cheat on her is not merely selfish- it is positively abusive. i can not think of any other way to think about it. i do not think a man simply disregards his wife and has sex with another woman. this is something he does TO his wife. to hurt her. or punish her
i just spent some time writing a long post describing my experience with this- i am...