Originally Posted by merpk
But saying hi to imaginary friends is never a lie. It's imaginary. That's the whole point.
Right. Wow I can't believe anyone thinks that saying "hi" to an imagainary friend is a "lie"!
I do not lie to my children. I do tell "white lies" to other people, but I have taught my children that a "white lie" is one that meets the following requirements:
1. It is done to avoid hurting someone else's feelings and/or
2. It does nothing for you (doesn't make things easier or get you something).
For example, "Don't be silly, your haircut does not make you look like a wet muskrat" meets these requiremetns.
I don't know. If you don't care "that much" it will probably take a long time.
Me...I care greatly and simply never ever ever allowed my kids in the bathroom with me. So it never occurred to them to even want to come in.
Originally Posted by caspian's mama
would you not let any cigarette smoker care for your child? i'm not talking about someone who would smoke indoors or anywhere the child could see it, or maybe not even the whole time they were with the child, if it was just a few hours.
same for mj. if you had an otherwise reliable and loving family member who smoked only recreationally (say, 1x month) and would not be possessing or inhaling any mj during...
Originally Posted by hubris
Definitely! How many packages have I picked up that I didn't end up buying?
Not 20! I too must say that if an ADULT was picking up TWENTY packages of candy and putting them back I would be quite annoyed. I would only express this with a frown or a disaproving look.
Like a PP said, this is a quirk of mine.
So how did the other people express their disaproval?
Originally Posted by MCatLvrMom2A&X
Oh for pity sake : and I suppose getting cracked up side the head with a 20 pd back pack full of books on someones back isnt a issue.
Screw the floors we are talking about the physical wellbeing of little ones here.
(directed at the rule not you pp)
There was a rash of broken arms and ankles when wheeled backpacks first became popular.
YK, I think that this is a situation that with a 12 year old, you can discuss it with him.
In a way, an adult behaving "badly" can reinforce your own values and helop you add, not take away, from your ds's emotional health.
Like I would say to my 12 y.o.:
"Thanks for going with Grandmpa and lil sis tomorrow. I just know that you will be able to protect her in a way that Granpa won't and make sure she is buckled in her seat etc...
"I do know that Grandpa can be...
Here's the thing. Many 4 year olds don't listen. They will negotiate til the cows come home, more for the engaging then the end result.
Here's what I would do:
1. Tell her things I want her to do
2. Explain why
3. Do not negotiate at the time I have made a demand that I want listened to.
4. If she fails to do it at first, repeat, standing near her with your hand gently on her shoulder making eye contact
5. IGNORE ALL BACKTALK
6. If she refuses to do...