Posts by mamakay

Quote: Originally Posted by mamazee  Yes, all he is talking about is the "self esteem movement" of the 70s and 80s where parents and teachers ran a running commentary giving very frequent praise. He isn't talking about...

Yes. http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/69072/polemic

Quote: Originally Posted by mamazee  The issue isn't that they're at odds but that the behavioral kind of praise, "Good job", has unintended consequences. I'm going to link to an article by Alfie Kohn that explains what...

  Quote: Originally Posted by IdentityCrisisMama  Yes, I agree.  I don't think it's a coincidence that many of us who had younger children back in the "CL heyday" are coming back to the idea...

  Quote: Originally Posted by IdentityCrisisMama    I'm that kid in the back of the lecture hall that keeps interrupting with weird questions.  Oh, oh...call on me (hand way up)....

  Quote: Originally Posted by mamazee  My older dd is temperamental and spirited too, and she's the one with whom I found Consensual LIving to be impractical. I love the idea but I couldn't make it work for us. I...

Quote: Originally Posted by PeacemongerMom  I would like to hear others experiences with it. I tried it, it sounded good, I wanted it to work but there are times in life that a child just has to follow the rules and...

I think stuff like this is GD:   http://www.childrensmemorial.org/ce/online/article.aspx?articleID=106     Quote: Parent training is the only empirically supported well-established treatment for...

I'm totally fine with there not really being too many hard and fast rules, and the mods just kind of taking things on a case by case basis, factoring in nuanced stuff like the probabilities of people working things out, the likely...

I'm on team "Some 4 year olds are just like that a lot of the time; try not to take it personally or blame him or blame your parenting."