I don't get the "sadly" when it comes to a kid visiting/building a relationship with a dad who isn't a bad guy. His dad is his dad, even with an intellectual mismatch. I know I go in and out of compatibility with my kids in cycles -- navigating adversity together is part of what makes us close, imo. Relationships are not just for times when everything is easy-peasy perfection. If he were abusive or dangerously stupid, I would have a different response.
11/2/12 at 9:03am