The "if I can't see it, it won't hurt me" mentality is done a lot in parenting. All I had to do was describe (and not even in detail) the simple was a circ is done, to DH, and he couldn't even LISTEN to me anymore. He cut me off and said "stop, my penis hurts" lol. He, as a man, could not imagine doing that to another male. And he is a pretty mainstream, conservative, go with the norm, trust the Dr kind of guy. He was like...what if they slip???