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I don't know... when my DS started preschool he was the only Russian speaker and didn't speak English. Of course he wasn't there to teach the other kids Russian but it is also stressful being one of very few kids who don't speak English well in the class, but that's what a lot of kids go through. I think it will sort itself out (esp if there are multiple language speakers in the class so it's not like all one other language he doesn't understand), but if he doesn't like...
I think what the au pair did is reasonable. I don't do it when I'm going into a grocery store b/c typically that would involve more time and there aren't the kind of windows you describe, but I have left the kids within site distance in the car in the parking lot to go to the ATM when I knew temperature wouldn't be a problem. It's like "stranger danger" -- a few instances get so publicized the the risk gets completely blown out of proportion in the average media-watching...
Quote: Originally Posted by siobhang I personally do not blame (most) women. I blame all of us. How many men would like to be more involved in their families but are not allowed to? They don't take advantage of family friendly policies because they would be judged far more harshly than a woman. The definition of "maleness" in the US does not include baby care - so if men do it, they step out of culturally sanctioned roles. How many men are consciously or...
But why are men not buying them? Mostly because no one has probably seriously come up with one that men would want to buy because too many people are making the assumption you are still making -- that men, with very few exceptions, cannot be equal parents in early years or later, or whatever. Sorry, but it's BS. My DH is an SAHD and his contribution to parenting has been equal and no less valuable than yours or any other SAHMs. Just like my breadwinning has been just...
Quote: Originally Posted by woobysma : I know VERY few women irl who are the "work 50 hours and farm out the kids" kind of parents... and most of them are what I would consider "mainstream" and not AP/NFL. Most of the women in my office who have had babies in the last 6 years (since I've worked there) have bf'd & taken extended leaves (unpaid or working from home PT). Many of the women with older kids (like me) bring their kids in after school and on...
Quote: Originally Posted by thismama ISame with the SAHD angle. How many of us who argue that SAHD's is equally viable, actually have a SAHD in our family set up? Some, but not many, it's pretty rare. . Me and this guy, who was a SAHD, and is also fed up with the lack of "parenting" magazines generally (although Mothering was not mentioned, I would argue it is part of the parenting magazine world even if it's philosophies are different in a...
Quote: Originally Posted by siobhang I In fact, I think the most valuable contribution mothering makes to parenting is not support for the AP/NFL checklist, but rather a statement about questioning the gross commercialism of parenting in general. Lots of AP/NFL things fall out of that questioning - trusting your instinct, not a book or a tool, knowing that your kids need you, not stuff. ITA and I think that -- along with a lot of other AP and...
I am just going to comparmentalize again. It's the only way to stay sane on this website. Honestly, nothing kills me than "what's more AP" or the "more AP than thou" positions some people take. As if there was some kind of exam we all have to pass or something. I guess people always have a tendency to set up hierarchies with no basis in reality which conveniently always place them at the top of such hierarchy.
Try to get your husband to spend one weekend just getting rid of and organizing stuff. We are not true minimalists but we do throw stuff out regularly, keeps us sane.
DS had a UTI last year which he got abx for. DH claims that for ages now DS has said his penis hurts (DS hasn't complained to me about it, but DS does sometimes say he wants to go to the bathroom, then can't pee). I don't think DS drinks enough water, though he has done better this summer. DH brought this up suddenly today to say let's take DS to a urologist. I asked him how much water DS has been drinking (DH is home with the kids during the day) and DH, being the way...
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