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Yes, I agree that she really needs legal assistance - legal aid and/or a women's resource center.  The ex is full of it, but can continue to make trouble if she doesn't put a stop to it.  She just needs to prove that she is the primary caregiver AND she needs to stress that she was not notified of an acute medical situation, in a timely manner, when the child was in ex's care.  It does indeed sound like the girlfriend wants to play house and wants your friend out of the...
It sounds like he says things that belittle you.  You mention that he's mostly a jerk when he's at home - is that the sort of thing he says/does most of the time?  Because that's not okay, and belittling someone is not a mark of a "great" man.    Is he good with the kids (although I don't believe that setting a poor example by insulting their mother is good for the kids) - meaning, does he give them attention, etc.  If so, your children would certainly still have a...
I'm not sure how long the drive is, but with your parents or using their car, can you go back to pick up the dog?  I definitly wouldn't bring the kids back, but I would bring another adult!  Maybe call the police station where to dog is to ask if they'll provide an escort so things don't get ugly.  Not sure if they would, but it's worth asking.   In the larger picture, you do need to speak to a lawyer! 
Just read through and glad you're doing a little better and seeing a reason for the behavior that's bothering you.    What will help so much in the big picture is having real legal boundaries with your ex!  Trust me.  My ex is the type who - even with boundaries - tries to push his way into every situation and is purposely uncooperative, so I know how draining that can be.  But don't let him be a wedge between you and your daughter.  Don't tell him your doubts, your...
Yes, it's horrible when exes purposely put children in the middle.  It shows how much they don't care about the kids' well-being.    I know your kids are different ages, but just keep reassuring them that they don't have to decide no matter what Dad says - that really in these cases the grownups work it out for the kids -  that you're working on the plan that will be best for everyone in the long run.  Tell them it's nice that of course Dad wants to spend time with...
Well, anyhow - I'm glad to read this poor baby is gaining weight.  Do you know if they're stepped up feeding him at home?    What I can't understand is how this baby's father just sat around scratching his butt while his child starved!!  If they're still starving him at home - even if it's a "risk" to their friendship, is your husband willing to talk to this guy plainly?
Just read this and glad you're not doing that!  That's way too much especially for someone who wouldn't have had any time at all to recover.  And I know the others have mentioned it, but that's $50/WEEK per kid!  That's beyond insulting!  Tell her good luck with that.
MamaJen is right that if your child is a teen, she'll be able to have a say in where she'd like to be.  (At 18, of course, custody issues wouldn't even be up to the parents any more as the child has a legal right to an independent life if they choose.)  So your husband may be threatening, in hopes to keep you from filing for divorce, but just because he's saying it, doesn't mean it's valid.  If he's threatening to make things ugly, I'm taking an educated guess that he's...
So glad things are in motion!  If this lawyer doesn't think your ex's atrocious, threatening, emotionally damaging behavior isn't enough for supervised visits, fire his/her butt immediately and find one who will - or file yourself - anything!  But your poor boy can't go back there the way things are now.    And still file a police report.  I have filed a couple about my ex's stalker-like behavior.  It wasn't physically harmful, but caused unnerving scenes that my...
This stood out to me, too!  I found that disturbing.   I'm glad you got rid of her - she was shockingly irresponsible!  
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