Posts by MissLotus

I think you are wise to not introduce the boyfriend anytime soon.  However I do wonder if you're able to cut the long weekend with him (I realize it's just every other weekend) down a bit.  (Or maybe that's the visitation...

I'm glad you are on the road to getting away from this man.  It's no partnership when everything is "his".  Ironically, you will actually have more money from him after divorcing!   Some lawyers do not charge a...

He ended the marriage by breaking his vows.  And here's the thing - if he really understood the enormity of what he's done, he would not be pressuring you now.  He would understand that it takes time and a huge amount of...

I send along what my son needs.  His father has much more money than I do, and can/should make sure our son has whatever he needs - but he won't.  And though it's hardly fair to me, I don't want my son go without...

You won't look bad for keeping your court date.  You're keeping it for your children - their needs don't subside whether your ex is "sick" or not.  Just like they wouldn't if you were still married.  People have to be...

What a rough time - you've got the wheels in action - another thing I wanted to suggest is to ask your lawyer if in your state it's okay to record phone conversations so a court can hear the garbage your ex says to the kids.  And...

That makes sense - I've read and fully believe that narcissism is one of the disorders that is hardest to "cure".  I just wish there was some way it was more widely recongized - by judges, for example.  Coming again from...

His response was to wipe his fingers across the top of the refrigerator, which were then of course covered in dirt and says, "This is insulting."    That is SO DEMEANING.  And it's sad that he has to go to that...

Oh, I know the narcissist all too well, as my ex is a raging one (and of course, a literally raging one).  And they are all exactly the same.   Any boundary set - the mere fact that it IS a boundary will be the thing to...

You stay strong - because you're right.  Don't believe his manipulation, when it is he who is being selfish and not considering the baby's needs!  He doesn't even have an appropriate place to bring the baby.  If he was...