Posts by MissLotus

Yes, it seems totally unnecessary to make that distinction.  You are the child's mom.  Period.

Quote: Originally Posted by floss&ferd  If it involves HIS paycheck and HIS HR department, then I suppose it's his problem to fix.  It seems like he would at least look into it. I agree!  Hey,...

What I love is that in every article or book about narcissists, there is never any real advice (that I've found), other than stay away from them.  They explain at great length how to identify a narcissist, but not much more. ...

I'm sorry you're going through this at the most vulnerable time.  The early contractions must be very scary and I hope your docor can help you.   Ultimately, I think it will bring you great relief to make your exit...

Your children deserve the full amount of support.  If paying the full amount of support will make him so disgruntled that he'll be a worse father because of it, then he'll be a lousy father anyway.  He should not resent...

Yes, it is abusive.  I feel for you.  My ex is also a narcissist - though thankfully we separated when my son was still a baby, so he has not been a daily influence.  But like yours, he speaks very inappropriately about...

Yeah, it's too often for the phone and that isn't really a sustainable arrangement for the long term... I mean, you can't promise to be home every single evening of your life, sitting by a computer.  My son isn't into the phone...

Don't worry about restraining orders or talking to the bank or whatnot right now - file for divorce!  What you need is to not be married to this person any more.  That gets him out of the house - and permanently. ...

I feel for you, too, OP.  As much as it might seem like things are whirling out of control, you sound very coherent and caring.  It will take time for you to detach yourself emotionally from your ex's issues, but you are...

You can still bounce your grandbabies on your lap someday... you can still enjoy Paris someday... you can still have wonderful times at home with your kids.  Except now you'll do it without an abuser present!  Trust me -...