I agree. I wouldn't make that choice yet. It could take a very long time, and by that time, anything else could happen to change everything. In fact, she may want to stay home with her second child for a while to let him or her acclimate. I just don't think i'd tell her "It's a deal breaker" because you obviously support her need to adopt...but, it might come off sounding like you will fire her IF she goes through with it.
4/16/13 at 1:24pm