Whoo hoo! Way to go! I just found out I'm expecting as well... after over a year TTC I'm really hoping this li'l one will stick around. Some days I'm a paranoid wreck hoping things will go okay. But congrats again!!
I *thought* that stainless steel was non toxic, but not 100% sure... where did you read /hear that frying oil in it is toxic?
I'm also somewhat at a loss with bakeware, but I use them so rarely that I'm not planning to replace them anytime soon. What about using glass pyrex products?