My dh, ds, and I are affectionate but dd doesn't like it much. She is ok with snuggling and hugging if she initiates it. She doesn't like kisses but lets us kiss her on the forehead. It bothers me that she doesn't like it. I bother her because I touch her without thinking. I try really hard to respect her boundaries but I do it without thinking somethimes. I don't really know how to advise you on changing it but I'll be reading with interest.