You know, I'm married, but never got the party. We ran off to Vegas (sigh, long story.) I got the pretty dress, but that was about it. So, I'm married, but still sometimes get jealous of people getting married the TRADITIONAL way!!
So, I totally understand wanting the party. Are you sure, though, that there isn't more to it than that? Perhaps you want the marriage, too? (Ducking, now.)