First of all... is there another board or another forum that I should be putting this on? It's deffinitely not just about GD.
dd is 12. but, I still feel this is a mature 12.
1)i agree that the world is filled with reward and punishment. I understand if it's hard to grasp the concept that there could be a better way, with better effects in the long run.
2)I understand what you're saying about letting him feel like he's being a good parent. But, when he's on dd's...