I don't think that it is rude at all. As an apprenticing midwife, a mothers/partners wishes are incredibly important and I would want to know what they want. If they want me to stay back and quiet, that is what I want to do. Likewise, if a mother/partner wants more hands on, I want to know that too. It isn't our birth, it is yours.
1/4/11 at 9:00pm