I agree with what theresa said -- but it might trip you up if you try to read a standard pattern. I would consider it a tool in your knitting toolbox, and then continue to learn other ways of doing everything!
The point of a ssk is to slip the stitches knitwise so they are not twisted when you do the decrease. If you do a ssk with the stitches slipped purlwise you get twisted stiches.
When marnie cp instructs you to do it one way or the other it is specifically to avoid making twisted stitches, so the resulting fabric looks smooth!
adapt this for your size? http://www.knitty.com/issuesummer06/PATTswell.html
Here's another: http://heyjulie.wordpress.com/2007/0...s-earflap-hat/
www.knittingpatterncentral.com is a great resource!
find your local LLL leader and get her over your house pronto to watch you nurse. There are some things that can only be diagnosed in person, and there are so many little corrections that can make a big diff. SOrry sweetie!! Sending you tough nipple vibes. xoxo