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 What does that mean, though?  To me, it reads as saying that if you found birth painful, it's because you're weak.  WHich, for the record, I don't believe. I run long distances and lift and carry heavy things.  I found birth quite painful.  There appear to be women who find walking and rocking back and forth and sitting in tubs eases contraction pain, but I am not one of them. Birth is painful.  Women are strong.  These are not related statements.
It should be totally possible to limit your DD to nursing during the day, but it's not an easy or seamless transition.  I nightweaned DS when he was not quite two, but it took my toughest tank-style sports bra, and a stock of water and crackers by the bed.  There was a rough week or so, when he'd try to get under the top, I'd say no, we're not nursing now, but we can cuddle, and no, we're not nursing now, would you like some water.  I had to be really clear about nursing...
Parental control software controls your computer, not your child. It might slow him down in his search for adult websites, but it won't keep him from spending his allowance (or dinner money) on porn at a news stand, it won't get him home on time, and it won't protect him from adult predators he might meet in real life. Twelve year olds are very capable of taking care of their personal, physical needs, but they aren't known for being well-organized, and they aren't...
My kids are seldom sick, and they recover fast.  DD (4 yo) was premature, but since leaving the hospital, has been sick once.  With a stomach bug.  It was gross, but not worrying, and it only lasted a day or two.  DS (7 yo) gets the occasional cold, but I cannot recall anything lasting more then 24 hours (although there was one time when his 24-hour bug landed us in the ER because he was having chest pain - it resolved with tylenol).   I do nothing.    The kids get a...
 Well, my hackles are up. I am sure you have good intentions and wonderful children - but you seem to be saying that your children's imaginative play is the product of their rich inner lives (which you have enabled), while other children's imaginative play is the result of their mindless absorption of media (with is implied to be set up by poor parenting).  It's all imaginative play, and it all fulfills the same function in children's lives.  Your children are projecting...
My parents were anti-tv, no tv at home, and totally let up on the issue for family gatherings in homes with televisions in them, and playdates with friends and so on.  It worked out to a lot of exceptions, but I still had the experience of feeling like there was a cultural discourse going on around me that I had no way to participate in.  If the "no tv" rule had extended to other people's houses, it could have been fearsomely isolating.  I am not sure I would have gone on...
It sounds like you have a really strong drive towards a third baby now, and like your husband has some very real and reasonable concerns.  If he feels like he's at his limit, you have to find a way to respect that.  If you could reassure him about his career concerns, you might be able to get him on board.   Some of your other stuff doesn't hold up too well on examination.  Like your idea that a girl would be less prone to running off then a boy.  Some kids are runners. ...
You need a lawyer. Are there resources for victims of domestic violence where you live? What do they recommend? Is there any way to file for custody while protecting you? Have you had the baby yet? Can you get someone to advise you about what your ex would have to do to prove paternity and file for custody? I hate to say this, but with a violent ex, it may not be safe to put details on the internet. Please look into domestic violence resources local to you.
That doesn't make the HDN stories irrelevant though.  The decision process can take some time, but we shouldn't conceal information that should be considered (like the fact that some babies experience dangerous bleeding that could be prevented by Vitamin K), and we shouldn't soft-pedal the risks (some babies die from that bleeding, some are permanently disabled, and there are not necessarily early symptoms that would alert parents to seek medical care before their children...
So the problem wasn't that he threw a shoe at you, but that he threw a screwdriver at his sister earlier?    Yeah, I would come down like crazy on the screwdriver.  Shoe, whatever.  Screwdriver?  OMG, I can't even.  I would be the terror of the earth on that one.
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