Hugs, mama. I feel for ya.
TV makes things worse at our house for some reason. The more tv, the wilder and meaner the girls get. If I shut off the tv for a few days, a new calm descends upon the house. (Now why don't I just leave it off? )
Exercise, running around, swimming, gymnastics, any physical activity seems to give them a "natural high" that lasts.
Not sure what else to say, but those two things are big factors at my house.