Could you have 2 showers? If different people are invited, there's no reason your mom and mil can't each do their own thing.
I would want to have the shower in Dec, too.
Your mom's comment about you being new to...
I have been side nursing N from day 1 this time too, and I do it exactly as Julie describes. It means more moving around in bed for sure (poor dh), but I think I am getting more rest as a result. Which is good, b/c Nicholas...
I know how you feel - I was induced for my first 3 (all post-dates) and with this baby, I just wanted to know what it was like to go into labour. Well, it happened! (at 41 weeks, mind you, but I did go into labour...