Posts by MamaOutThere

My 7 1/2 yo dd said to me last night, "Mama, something is upsetting me. When I give daddy lots of loving I'm afraid it makes you jealous." I was like, "No way! It makes me so happy to see you two happy...

Quote: walking away part is tough since that's what she *wants* me to do. Not really, probably. If mine says "go away" I go, silently (unless she says it during a full-blown tantrum, during which I just...

Mine (27 mos on Mon) just got over a stage a bit like this. I just told her, calmly, "You may not talk to me like that." "You have no right to treat me like this." Or "Gentle talk, please." And if she...

Quote: I wish that I could take back every angry word I've uttered, every moment I yelled, those times I hit. Really? But if your kids grew so much it's because they watched you grow so much! I think there was...

I totally agree with Laoxinot. Jackson'sMama, the best thing you can do is drop all these expectations you have of yourself and find your own parenting style. I followed TCS (Taking Your Child Seriously) for years with dd1. At...

They use those in orphanages in some countries. Get all the babies (pre-sitting, too) to go at the same time every day.

Somehow you've got to figure out what the underlying need/emotion is. It ain't easy. But once you find it/them, your life will be easier. Ask lots of questions; when you hit on it, he'll let you know, I think. My dd1 used to pinch...

Yeah, my mom didn't have witholding problems. Grandmother gave her a laxative and made mom sit on the toilets, sometimes for up to an hour or longer, until she passed a bm. She wasn't abusive in any other way, just not a good mother.

Yep, went through this hell with my now 7 1/2 yo no-problems-wonderful dd1. (edited to add: she hit only me) We talked a lot about emotions and what were the underlying emotions behind the hitting. She really needed to learn these...

I went directly to the principal last year when my dd was being bullied. He fired some people and implemented some changes this year (teachers, not underqualified women sitting around chatting, are with the kids at all times during...