It's typical for the brides closest friends to throw the shower. Odds are those are the MOH and bridesmaids. They host the shower they want. The big secret to many showers is that sometimes the guest of honor or family have strong opinions about the shower. Since they can't officially host they do all the planning, work, and funding, and simply use the MOH's name for the invitation RSVP. If they care so much about the shower than OP should be host in name only.
5/13/11 at 3:30pm