Yes I felt very similar and i rarely tandem fed my newborns
Then it became easier and from about 9m it was ok though rarely enjoyable
I got pg and though i continued to bf again I couldn't bear feeding both twins at once
With my recent labour, it was the AROM. I didn't go into labour for another 10 hours, and even then only with a synto drip. The AROM was very difficult as my cervix was still posterior and not fully effaced (despite 24h of gel and 24h of pessary) and the waters were very tight around baby's head, he was coming brow first. Bishops score was 6 In my twin birth AROM was straightforward, Bishops score was 10 and after the AROM I went into labour swiftly and T1 was born...
I think managing your toddler and older child alongside the twins, and establishing bf, will be the difficult things. If you can arrange the school runs, and have someone onhand as much as possible to toddler wrangle, bring you food and drinks, that will be a huge help.
My DP had two weeks leave, a week of short days to do the school run, then another week's leave, when our twins were born. I think you need 4-5 weeks of substantal help
I had twin 1 very swiftly with nopain relief at all, except some time in the pool. Then paused to meet and feed him... labour had stopped. After 2h I was checked, twin 2 was coming feet over her head. They suggested turning her manually, I had gas and air for that. It wasn't as painful as the drip I thne had ti keep her down. they broke my waters and she ws born pretty quickly.
My most recent baby I had my waters broken at 40+4 due to high BP... it was a very...
My DS1 was at school so I had just the twins daytimes... managed on my own. DP is hands on but EBF and did nights. The newborn bit wasn't bad at all.. in fact I was on quite a high. Bt they latched 2ell, and I had had an easy birth and recovery.
I have another baby now (12w old) and the birth, recovery and bf have all been much harder due to health problems for me and a tongue tie for him, plus twin toddlers to look after
I've recently found out I'm pg with twins (just 6.5w so far) and already I'm worrying about the birth.
I hate hospitals and I hate having to deal with medical personnel I don't know.
With my son (4 1/2) I had an independent midwife, and would have had a homebirth but after a DVT was on bloodthinners and so had to go into hospital in case of PPH.
But it was fine, with my own midwife, went into labout at 41+4 and had DS in less than 4 hours. No need for continuousl...