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Thanks for this analogy Peony.  I don't think I realized how full our bucket was, as a family.  Stress and anxiety, and depressing type feelings have been a part of my life for so long and yet not really ever totally immobilized me for any meaningful length of time that I always viewed my kids stress as something we could roll through.  I wasn't living life afraid of adding any extra stress before, but I sure am now. DD's kindergarten class apparently watched a movie about...
Also could use thoughts on how much violence is allowed in your home.  Today's issue is DS1 (age 11) has asked me to reconsider my position on the video game Call of Duty, Black Ops.  This is not a game I allow in our house.  However, the boys have friends whose parents do allow this game with the blood and gore feature turned off and in "zombie" mode so they aren't shooting actual people.  My boys play this when over at friends' homes.  Their best friend, who they want to...
More questions...   How to handle when avoidance turns into negative/ oppositional behavior.  In the past I didn't link his oppositional behavior to stress and anxiety.  Our therapist is helping me to re-frame that in my mind.  It has typically felt to me like DS sometimes uses melt downs to get out of things he doesn't want to do (for example chores).  I didn't see it as him not wanting to do it because he was stressed or panicked but because he would just rather play...
What a relief to have responses from Mamas who understand!  Its been a very isolating month.  Thank you all for you thoughts.   DH is so much better at helping DS than I am!  Since DS had all night and this morning to stress out about going to the gym today DH was able to work him into a place of acceptance.  So we didn't have to carry him kicking and screaming after all!  What a relief!  DS spent an hour 1 on 1 with the coach and had a wonderful, positive experience. ...
I think we've all (coach, DH and I) pushed him during this to try to overcome his fears and "do it anyway", not realizing that what he was dealing with went beyond the normal fear of trying something new.  Gymnastics can be scary at times.  Now that we realize that this isn't just the normal level of fear we've all backed off, but he is terrified that his coach is going to try to force him to do something uncomfortable.  His coach was pushing him, because DS was refusing...
My son is struggling with depression and anxiety.  He has always been an anxious child, but over the past few months things have been getting much more difficult for him.  Most noticeably he started having panic attacks at gymnastics - an activity for which he has had a passionate love for years.  Things in the past few weeks have gotten to the point that we took him out of gymnastics because he is just not able to cope with it.  School is still going well for now.  Last...
Good point.  I have to keep reminding myself that things will likely be different this time.  I've actually never TTC before.  DS1 was conceived the first month we stopped trying not to and DS2 and DD were both surprise babies.   Good luck with your plans! 
Here is my thinking today:  I'm thinking that if I decided to go forward with TTC #4 a good time to do that would be next August/ Sept so that I would be on maternity leave during the summer when the kids are out of school anyway.  That still has my age at time of conception only at 40 so hopefully I won't yet be into the danger zone of infertility.  And the other kids won't be terribly far apart in age.  6 years might be a nice age difference when it comes to paying for...
Just read this, and it helped me feel better.  Although the overall article is a bit depressing.   “A healthy 42-year-old with no medical problems who is in good physical shape and conceives naturally is likely to have just as nice a pregnancy as a woman who is a decade younger,” says Laura Riley, MD, a maternal-fetal-medicine specialist at Massachusetts General Hospital and chairwoman of the communications committee of the Society of Maternal-Fetal...
Or does the fact that I have these other things that are important to me and have me hesitate to start the baby clock all over mean that I'm really mentally past this and I'm just trying to hold on for some reason?
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