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I think a time out is a far better way to handle a child who is hitting or misbehaving than yelling at them or snapping and spanking.  A timeout will let everyone get back under control.  I'm always surprised at people who are adamantly opposed to any kind of punishment, yet whose children are so miserable to be around, even the parents don't like them.  What a sad life for that child. (Not saying that is the case with the original poster.)   We don't actually time...
The only thing in your note that I would be overly concerned about is the speech. Seems like he should be talking a little better now with fuller sentences, especially considering his other abilities.  Now, I'm just a parent of a highly gifted kid, so I'm not an expert, though.  But your description sounded a bit like my 9 year old when he was 2.    He often went through phases in things he liked and hated.  He hated hair cuts for about a year (I had to start doing...
What did the principal say?  I would have called the police.  In fact, I still think you should.  I'm sorry the parents are scary, though. Maybe the police can give you some perspective. In my first house, drug dealers moved in to the rental next door and they were super scary, so I know how that feels.   But imagine how it feels to be a kid, knowing those kids are in the neighborhood.   I put my house on the market a month after they moved in.   I hope you can find a...
I think you're on the right track in now you're dealing with him. He's 2 1/2, so this is a phase where he's trying to see if he ramps up his fussing if you'll give in.  Obviously you can't or you'll reinforce the behavior.  I agree, he shouldn't have a cookie for breakfast.  That's a "sometime" treat.  The only thing I would do differently is say, "oh, I love cookies, too... let's have one together (after school), "  or, "cookies are sure good, but they're not for...
When my twins were that age, I really wanted another child.  I had been a 2-is-enough person until they were born, I fell madly in love, and knew I had enough love for more.  It had taken us 4 years to get pregnant though, so I doubted it would happen.  Luckily, (and surprisingly) I got pregnant when they were 3 1/2 and it's been wonderful.   It's been great for them to have a younger sister and my dd is the luckiest girl in the world to have such cool older brothers....
I have a 5 yo dd, too, and I think you need to find a developmental pediatrician and a counselor asap.  You and your dh need to be on the same page with discipline.  I can't tell from your posts what your strategy is for dealing with your dd.   I don't think yelling or spanking are appropriate or will lead to the results you're looking for.  But I do believe in setting and enforcing limits.  My children (including my 5yo dd) haven't had a time out in... I can't even...
Wow, Ozark.  So self-righeous.  And uninformed.  Please don't give advice.
Regarding the happy jar-- my boys loved one.  We did it for random acts of kindness.  I'd let them put a marble in a jar when I "caught" them doing something they were supposed to do.  They didn't even care when it was filled up-- they just liked being recognized for doing nice things or whatever "good" thing I noticed. If you can't find ANYTHING your son does right, I think there's a much bigger problem in your house than you've described. But I'll bet he's not as bad...
I see your dilemma, and you've obviously given it a lot of thought. But I agree with the previous poster, that it might be best to separate educational issues from family issues.  What's best for your twins in school?   I have twins boys, too-- one of them has dyslexia.  He's only 9 and in 4th grade, so I don't think an ipad is right for him this year, but maybe next year it will be.  I will have no problem getting him (and not his twin, or his younger sister) a...
"So, questions for you all... Is it really reasonable to think my daughter would need special services?  She's only 16 months -  how could we possibly predict future intelligence?  "   It's not FUTURE intelligence.  I think she's showing you she's incredibly intelligent.  She has it already.  And yes, she has special needs.  My sons are in an HGT program and the teachers are gifted specialists-- classified in the special ed department.    My boys  "only" started...
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