For the past 3 children I have been using a demi-style bra from Victoria's Secret for nursing. I like the support, the light lining, etc.
I just pull my boob out nurse. I get 18 months or so out of each bra and I wear one bra 99% of the time.
My oldest daughter(age 11) has 1-2 activities a week with outside kids without our family.
My second daughter (age 7 1/2) has 1 activity a week with outside kids without our family.
We generally do 1-2 other things a week with outside kids as a family. Playgroups, art group, etc.