I was still with STBX when DS1 was born, but he was deployed during his birth so he physically wasn't there. I had a good birth experience with DS1. He was born in the hospital, but I had a really close friend with me the whole labor and delivery who had given birth before. She acted as a doula. I was sad that STBX wasn't there, at the time, but it was really awesome to give birth with my friend there who had already experienced it and knew what I was going through.