I don't "hit" her, I smacked her lips when she lied to me.
I appreciate the chart and am pretty sure I try those things.
The challenges I face are
1. I give her LOTS of choices, about what she eats, wears, the books we read, how and where she plays, which park we play at, etc.
2. I give her responsibilities, to place napkins on the table, to pick up after herself, to help with baby, to dress herself, to put away her clothes and keep her closet...