I couldn't disagree more. I believe it is the job of a parent to teach our children and Alfie Kohn's complete lack of input toward his children feels to me like disinterest and neglect. To me, a parent who helps their child, encourages their child, and engages their child while sharing themselves and their views is the parent who is loving their child and allowing them the safe space in which to grow. If your child jumps on the bed and you say "boing boing" you child is going to become bored and stop trying. If your child brings you an art project that they made in school it is your job to show enthusiasm and excitement, not just say "you used a brown crayon today". What a boring world Alfie proposes.
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
Pros: change what you thought you knew about parenting
Cons: hard to think how to go against the grain so much
Alfie Cohen is an amazing author and activist. His book is thought provoking and challenging the normal ways of how we think as parents.
I read this and realised a lot of my parenting has been about manipulation and control. I am deeply interested in spirituality and meditation and a goal if you will about parenting is for me to say I love my children unconditionally.
It was a bit of an eye opener to see how I don't really do this. How I am actually treating them in ways that I want them to be and do just as I say.
Very radical and very appealing for any parents brave enough to want to make a difference...
Pros: Revolutionary, easy to understand
Cons: Not full of practical tips, long in beginning
This has been the most important parenting book I have read so far. It has totally helped me to refocus my approach to parenting my now-toddler. Kohn has a great sense of humor and a wonderful style that will challenge the way you parent without making you feel bad about your earlier practices.
The first half of the book was a little long-winded for my taste, but is full of interesting and necessary background. The latter part of the book sets up a loose framework for how to be an unconditional parent, but doesn't give you a checklist of things you must or must not do. He really engages you as a parent to take full responsibility for creating a healthy & loving relationship with your child.
I just really, really love this book!
|Dewey Decimal Number||649.1|
|Edition||1st Atria Books Trade Pbk. Ed|
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|Number Of Pages||272|
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|Title||Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason|