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post #21 of 53
Not me. This was a surprise pregnancy and I am so not ready for it yet. I am slowly getting there. It has been 10 years since I had a baby and I am a little nervous about starting all over again.
post #22 of 53
Baby is so much easier on the inside! No way do I want to do some intervention to make her come early!

I was induced with DD at 40 weeks, 3 days for no good reason. No way will I allow that again!

My EDD has been Dec. 28, Jan. 2 and Jan. 4. Whatever. Late Dec./Early Jan. I'm hoping for after the holidays.

I love being PG, though! This one has gone by so quickly! How is it possible I only have (give or take) 7 weeks left? I admit, I'm still mostly petrified about having a newborn with my high needs/spirited/LOUD toddler!

DH is going out of town for a weekend (unavoidable) mid January. So I really do want her to come by/around her due date and not 2 weeks late. If I go a week over, we'll start talking natural induction techniques.
post #23 of 53
For me "early" would be "before 42w1d" so yes, early would be nice. Provided that "early" begins after 37 weeks.

Anyway I'd just be thrilled to go into labor on my own, period. Around 39-40 weeks would be icing.
post #24 of 53
Probably don't know what I am saying, but I'd rather he come late at this point. I have so much to do and I haven't and probably won't have time to focus on getting ready. I wish I could just zap everything away and focus on the little guy coming. I am dying to wash diapers and clothes and set everything up.
post #25 of 53
Not early... but praying praying and more praying that she doesn't decide to hang out too far past the due date. I know the due date isn't an expiration date or anything... but I'm ready. lol Anytime after 37 weeks and before 42 weeks will make me happy happy.

I do not want to induce at all, so am praying mostly that she comes within a reasonable time so I don't get the induction talk.
post #26 of 53
I'm hoping to make it to my due date (Jan 3) or go a little later. A January birthday just sounds fun to me! But I'm sure we'll be happy whenever s/he arrives.
post #27 of 53
As long as he comes out healthy I'll be happy. I do hope he waits until at least 38 weeks since Christmas is week 37 and I would like for his birthday to be a little bit away from the holiday.
post #28 of 53
NO! I am really uncomfortable but I dont want her to come early. DS was 5 weeks PM and it was not good. Besides, I want her to come AFTER the holiday crazies.
post #29 of 53
I hope she comes after the first of the year....anytime after January 2nd (EDD Jan 11th), mostly because I have to work on the 2nd in order to have my health benefits covered by the company. Other than that, I'm fine with whenever but do not want to have to induce....so after the 2nd and before 42 weeks would be WONDERFUL.
post #30 of 53
I wouldn't want mine to be here before she's ready.. but I'll take 2 weeks before like my dd. Especially since I'm trying for a VBAC and the stupid backup doctor to my midwives doesn't allow a VBAC candidate to go past 41 weeks. : I just asked my midwife last appt. to lie and push back my due date a couple days.
post #31 of 53
I'm hoping as early as possible and still be able to come home w/ me and be healthy etc. I can barely walk sometimes b/c of my SPD and spend a few times a day crying about it b/c I just can't function sometimes and I have 3 other kids to take care of! If baby is not here by 39 wks, we are inducing. Not ideal, but we chose the same w/ Ilana b/c of the SPD and she was born in 3.5hrs and things went well. Evan was my ptl baby that held out till 38 wks, so I' not a 40wk mama more than likely (even Ilana would've been here on her own had I given her another few days). I dilate early and wouldn't mind birthing a few wks early either. It goes against everything I believe deep down, but not being able to function and take care of your family isn't healthy either.
post #32 of 53
I never thought I'd say this, but yes, I want baby to come early--like 37 weeks. I don't want to do 42 weeks again, but I'm not just uncomfortable, I'm in pain. I can't breathe, I'm depressed, I'm unable to carry my poor toddler and I can't walk. I wish I felt like I did with Lilly--that it was okay to wait, but I have this overwhelming urge for the baby to finish cooking quickly.

All that said, if I go 42 weeks, that's what I do. I'll be unhappy, doubly so because I don't WANT to be anything but happy and I was enjoying being pregnant so much just two months ago, but my baby will be born when he/she is ready, not when I am.
post #33 of 53
well, I believe that babies, like all genetic variations, follow the bell curve--so there is a healthy range of normal. Like pp's said, some people have 37-38 weekers that are totally "cooked". So I don't think a baby born then is automatically going to have probs. So for those of you who have short pregnancies and healthy babies, go for it! Same for those with high-risk and painful complications that will be a relief to have a baby as soon as possible while still being safe for baby--I know you will be looking forward to it being over!

BUT, I seem to be on the other end of the curve. My 42 week 5 day son was perfectly healthy. So. . .I'm not expecting an early baby this time. "Early" for me would be 41 weeks, I would be over the moon about that!

I don't like being pregnant by this time, (PSD, varicose veins, swelling) but I don't like the increased risks inductions bring so that's not an option for me (unless it becomes medically necessary for some reason)

That being said, DH is leaving the country for half the month on Jan. 16, so I really hope to deliver before then for sure (my EDD is end of dec so I'm hoping we'll be safe) and like pp's said, I hope to deliver before 42 weeks, just because that is when everyone LOSES THEIR MINDS and starts calling, coming over, demanding to know what is wrong with you and/or the baby, why you are so irresponsible that you won't just go get your c-sec., etc. etc.

The being 19 days past EDD was way harder mentally than physically, just in my personal experience.
post #34 of 53
I'll be having my 2nd c-section, no VBAC for me. I've kinda convinced myself that I'm happy about the 2 weeks early deal. Funny thing is, my DC tend to come 2 weeks early anyway.
post #35 of 53
Having had a preemie, I can't imagine wanting a baby to come before they are ready. But then again, I've never experienced the "OMG I am soo pregnant" feeling. That's my goal this pregnancy....to get to that uncomfortable-ready-to-have-this-baby feeling!!! (Oh and no NICU stay and a VBAC. I've got high hopes!)
post #36 of 53
If Christmas wasn't at my 39 week mark I might say that I'd like 39-40 weeks...but as it stands I'm hoping for 40-41 weeks. That was when DS arrived, so it also seems most natural in my mind. I will be shocked if we have an early exit...I actually have to remind myself that it *is* possible since I'm so convinced that he'll be like DS.

It's strange to me how many women say "I have a feeling he/she will come early"...especially on their first baby!! Many people seem to think it'll happen early. I won't even tell people a due date and it irritates them. I just say "first week of January" and they usually nod and ask "what day?"... Weird. I think "due week" is much better!!
post #37 of 53
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If Christmas wasn't at my 39 week mark I might say that I'd like 39-40 weeks...but as it stands I'm hoping for 40-41 weeks. That was when DS arrived, so it also seems most natural in my mind. I will be shocked if we have an early exit...I actually have to remind myself that it *is* possible since I'm so convinced that he'll be like DS.

It's strange to me how many women say "I have a feeling he/she will come early"...especially on their first baby!! Many people seem to think it'll happen early. I won't even tell people a due date and it irritates them. I just say "first week of January" and they usually nod and ask "what day?"... Weird. I think "due week" is much better!!
I tell people, "any time between Christmas and Groundhog's day" when they ask my due date (unless they have a need to know the exact EDD, which most people do not!).

Also, Christmas birthdays are not always awful. I guess many people hate them, but my husband loves his. I think the key is not letting the birthday be swallowed by the holiday, and making sure to have some time and ritual that is special to that child.
post #38 of 53
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Originally Posted by laurelg View Post
Oh, and I'll come right out and say it: A baby before the new year would also be great... for our taxes!


Our babe is due on Jan 7, so I wouldn't mind baby coming out at 38.85 weeks, just in time to be our precious little deduction. LOL.
post #39 of 53
Can I change my answer?...

Please, please, please come early baby! Not before your ready, but how about 37-38 weeks?

I am sooo uncomfortable! In terrible pain at and after work! My work is very physical and I my job is to get others out of pain--I'm not a great example right now!
post #40 of 53
As much as I want to meet this baby... No, I don't want to go early. For one, dp won't be back on R&R till 2 days after my EDD. For two, I believe in letting babies "bake" for as long as they need to. That said, I may take some castor oil and try to induce myself if the ob gets too antsy and wants to pump some cytotec into me like last time...
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