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Angelina Jolie talks about nursing twins

post #1 of 41
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OK -- so this is proof of my addiction to Hollywood gossip, but I saw this about Angelina Jolie nursing her twins.

http://perezhilton.com/2008-11-18-sa...stfeeding-woes

It sounds like she did it for three months, and that it was hard. It *is* hard! While one can always hope for a longer nursing relationship, I am pleased she is talking about it at all (takes some of the weirdness away, maybe)...

What do you think?
post #2 of 41
Ahh.. makes me wonder if she knows about mothering.com... if she had more support from forum.. maybe she'll keep on trying a little bit longer.
post #3 of 41
Good for Angelina for lasting 3 months!
post #4 of 41
3 months is better then most moms plus she has 4 other kids at home and busy career so I'm : Her babies got 3 months of mama's milk, much better then none!
post #5 of 41
The article made me kind of sad (I blame hormones) Not sure how much support she had, but sad if she did not have enough.

It also scared me a bit. I have no doubt that it will be hard, but I'm really hoping to breastfeed my twins as long (or longer) as I did my oldest (22 months).
post #6 of 41
I saw this too Lisa, so you're not the only one up on her Hollywood gossip

I'm still gestating so what do I know but I was glad she did 3 months vs. nothing, especially with twins. I'm guessing breastfeeding isn't too common amongst the celebrity crowd even with a singleton. I was glad she talked about it and I can imagine that having the other kids that she does and the lifestyle that she does 3 months was pretty good. I also wonder how isolating it must be to be her. You can't exactly go to a LLL meeting and hear from other nursing moms. If anything, it was a good reminder to me of how essential support is, whether it's a lactation consultant, LLL, the forums here, etc.
post #7 of 41
It seems to me she had difficulty nursing them at the same time. Well, we're at 8.5 months, and I have problems with that and always have. I would much rather nurse one after the other even if it means someone is upset for a few minutes. I'm glad she is talking about it, getting it out into the public. . . maybe take away some of the "freakiness" of bf. And I agree, three months is better than no mama milk.

Gestating twin mamas- you can do it! You can successfully bf your multiples.
post #8 of 41
I'd guess that AJ had a few issues making BF'ing harder - her twins were premature, I don't know by how much, she would have been recovering from her second c/s, in a foreign country with no adult family help. I can imagine that it was hard.

But I'm really glad she committed to three months and talked about it in public. It's good for raising awareness that you can BF multiples, sympathy for those to whom it doesn't come easy and kudos to those who manage longer.

She's pretty awesome!
post #9 of 41
Good to see in the public eye! I am shocked at how many people incredulously say, "Wow! I didn't know you could breastfeed twins!" when I am spotted nursing in public. It seems "sort-of" a no-brainer for us who have or are doing it, but I guess there are a lot of folks who don't realize it is possible...

I have to say, though, the comments on that site are pretty awful. I had to get out of there quick!
post #10 of 41
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I saw this too Lisa, so you're not the only one up on her Hollywood gossip
Guilty here too!

For all we know she may be pumping and giving expressed breast milk. But yes, it was nice to read that she made it 3 months. I hope I make it much longer than that!
post #11 of 41
OTOH it's great that she made it 3 months.

OTOtherH, she's a woman with infinite resources, essentially. 3 months isn't that impressive IMO for someone who can hire a bevy of nannies, get the best LC flown to her side, have no other tasks other than learning to BF her twins. I think it sends the message that "this is so difficult to do that even Angelina Jolie, rich supermom, could only manage it for three months."
post #12 of 41
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The article made me kind of sad (I blame hormones) Not sure how much support she had, but sad if she did not have enough.

It also scared me a bit. I have no doubt that it will be hard, but I'm really hoping to breastfeed my twins as long (or longer) as I did my oldest (22 months).
Honestly, it wasn't and is not hard for me. It really isn't. And I hardly ever nurse them together. And they were 10 weeks premature. The first 6 weeks of nursing my tongue-tied singleton were a LOT harder than nursing my preemie twins has ever been.

I know I'm lucky. Everything has just worked out well for me (although I don't have much support at all; the babies are just really easy to nurse, and I have the experience of having done it before). I'm definitely not trying to discredit anybody who says it is hard. And I do think it's great that Jolie nursed for 3 months. But for the mamas who are pregnant: it doesn't have to be hard at all. It might be, but so might nursing a singleton be. It could also be super easy and the least of your worries
post #13 of 41
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Originally Posted by Zadee View Post
OTOH it's great that she made it 3 months.

OTOtherH, she's a woman with infinite resources, essentially. 3 months isn't that impressive IMO for someone who can hire a bevy of nannies, get the best LC flown to her side, have no other tasks other than learning to BF her twins. I think it sends the message that "this is so difficult to do that even Angelina Jolie, rich supermom, could only manage it for three months."
That's exactly how I felt. I'm glad she mentioned breastfeeding the twins, but it is a bit discouraging that women may read this and the message that they get from it is that it's so hard that even someone with near infinite resources couldn't do it.
post #14 of 41
I agree with the PP that nursing a singleton with any issues can be a LOT harder. and I have a DD who was 18 mos when my twins were born. I STILL found nursing my DS with reflux (and parenting for the first 2 years) harder than my twins. I know all twins are different maybe one or both of hers were tongue tied or had reflux. I remember in the early days thanking my lucky stars that both of my twins had bellies that worked right.

I just wanted to post again to support expecting MOMs who will be nursing twins, while time consuming, does not have to be hard.

HTH
Tassy
DS 7, DD 3, twin DDs 2 (and still nursing strong!)
post #15 of 41
Honestly, I probably wouldn't have lasted 3 months if I had 4 other kids and a demanding career. My boys nurse A LOT. Some evenings I'll be stuck on the couch for 3-4 hours while they go on nursing marathons, one after the other. Luckily my older kids can get a drink or a snack themselves and when dh is home, he's a huge help. 3 months is better than nothing. And she was public and open about breastfeeding them and I think that is awesome.
post #16 of 41
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That's exactly how I felt. I'm glad she mentioned breastfeeding the twins, but it is a bit discouraging that women may read this and the message that they get from it is that it's so hard that even someone with near infinite resources couldn't do it.
I completely agree.

I have the exact same age spacing in my children that Brad and Angie have. Actually, I think my oldest is a touch younger than theirs. And I've managed to successfully nurse both twins, exclusively, without the aid of ANY nannies or lactation consultants, etc. Just me. And my boobies. And my babies. And lots of stress some days but other days not. Ok, I DID put my oldest in school but that was about it as far as "concessions" went. Oh, and Claire got one six ounce bottle of formula one day when I was at a long birth (it was two, back to back actually) and I didn't have enough breast milk for the whole time.

That's it. In six months. And we won't be stopping any time soon. So it CAN be done, even with six under six. Heck, Heather is nursing TWO sets of twins.
post #17 of 41
Well, it's hard to post after Chantel, who pretty much has the kid load equivalent, and IS still BF-ing, but what I thought was, no matter how much help you have, and no matter how many resources you have, the older kids still want YOU, MOMMY, and every nursing relationship is different. I don't know offhand what country they are in (sorry, I so don't follow celebs), but maybe even getting the water needs met was challenging. Anyways, I love that someone people think of as hip and cool (enough to pay attention to her life ) is BF-ing, and although I found my twins' nursing relationship to be a piece of cake so far, I DO know the challenges of a pre-term baby, and let me tell you, there is NO comparison!!! There's nothing quite like a baby who ISN"T nursing, and basically being married to the breast pump, while still trying to kangaroo care, much less shove any food into your face.
Is the cup half full of half empty here?
post #18 of 41
My twins share the same birth date as their twins of July 12, only 2 years earlier, the year Shiloh was born. And I also lasted 3 months of breastfeeding. It was very hard on me as my girls didn't have much for sucking abilities at birth so I had to exclusively pump. Once I was drawing blood, I had to stop, but I did last those 3 months. I try not to beat myself up over it, it's hard but it took several weeks to heal after I stopped using the pump, I'm sure I fit an infection in there somewhere.

Good job Angie for speaking out for breastfeeding.!!
post #19 of 41
I haven't read the article yet but I opened the link. I just wanted to post for the other expectant twin moms who have mentioned feeling nervous, and cautiously optimistic. I agree with others who've mentioned that it is possible and do-able.

I am at the four month mark (so, not really TOO far yet) and things are humming along. It is hard, in the sense that you are called on to be uniquely available to two babies, and in the sense that there are ups and downs as far as degree of the demand that's on you....growth spurts, fussy stages and extra neediness associated with developmental spurts, nights of more or less sleep (because of more or less nursing.) It's a challenge because that commitment is there, and it can be challenging.

But we are going along and I never really assumed anything different. Either because of confidence or obliviousness, I didn't buy any bottles or get a pump before the twins were born (I have an Avent Isis hand pump that I used briefly to have a supply of breastmilk onhand when I started solids with my older child, for mixing with food--I thought I might pump more with her but I never ended up using a bottle with her, so didn't really need the pump.) I ended up not introducing any bottles with the twins, either.

There were times that I've thought having expressed milk in a bottle would have solved my problems (like taking my elderly mom to a doctor's appointment, and ending up with both babies wailing, no way to hold both, trying to nurse one while the other screamed in his carseat, and fending of physicality from my still-adjusting preschooler....) but I never ended up doing anything about it. I do nurse them in public but not at the same time (we juggle babies back and forth, when I have my husband along.)

I fully expect to nurse through the first year, nursing exclusively until whenever we start solids (not feeling any too hurried about that, at the moment), and then on through the second year. I nursed my older daughter until 2 months before she turned 4 (she had cut back a great deal and was slowly weaning), and I won't be surprised if the twins go about that long. I remember the phases of urgency versus a more laid-back attitude that characterized toddler nursing for my daughter, and I see that it all could be challenging (emotionally and physically) with twins (as it certainly was with a singleton), but at this point, it feels nothing but do-able.

Of course, I'm kind of in a smoother period right now!

For awhile, I did feel enmeshed and it felt constant and anything else pulling at me in my life got neglected. Only now is my house BEGINNING to seem livable/presentable (and I'm serious), and I'm feeling better about things. I don't want to minimize the upheaval and challenge of ALL of it, including the nursing factor, with two newborns. But on the level of taking it one day at a time and just attending to the needs of whoever was in front of me, needing me, it was do-able.

I got more willing to nurse them together once my husband's paternity leave ended (at 6 weeks) and I no longer had someone to hold/bounce the other baby. It can be physically challenging (sometimes my skin crawls and I get irritable, I assume it's the sensations) but it serves a purpose. But yeah, nursing one at a time feels luxurious. (Unless, of course, they're growth-spurting and it's never-ending. Then a little tandem time is worth it for sure!)

My twins were full-term and fed well from the start. Short frenulums, and some pain/discomfort for me because of that, but in the end we decided it wasn't necessary to have them clipped & we'll wait and see how talking comes along....if they stretch or not. They now are nursing well despite the short frenulums (as far as pain to me--no more discomfort related to that) and the oversupply/forceful letdown issue is mostly something they can manage, too.
post #20 of 41
I 3 months bfing twins! It would be nice if she is pumping or went longer but at least she tried and spoke about it!
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