Originally Posted by DeannaK
And if things get tough at certain points in our breast feeding journey, the last person I will think about is Angelina.
I agree that what she does/decides with her twins has nothing to do with how I will raise my children. I think the issue is more the types of assumptions people have about breastfeeding twins. I didn't think it was that great of an "article." I read through it back when I saw it posted and yeah, it basically seemed to be from a pessimistic angle. (Not Angelina's comments, just the general attitude of "Of course it couldn't last.") Maybe I'm remembering it wrong, but it seemed all about the "too difficult" angle.
On another note....not specifically to do with Angelina but just what people have said about attitudes & preconceptions of others re: nursing twins.
So when people in public express surprise that twins can be nursed, is that a logistical thing? Are they seeing tandem nursing and expressing surprise at that? ("I didn't know you could nurse two at once"?) Or is it an "I didn't think you could have enough milk to nurse two" kind of thing? Or is it an "I thought it would be too hard" kind of thing? I just was trying to figure out what it means when people claim to have thought it was "impossible" to nurse twins.
The most exposure I've had to that kind of amazement/disbelief reaction was from some women at my mother's wake. They came up to see the babies, and asked how big they were at birth. Nearly fell over, thinking how hard it must have been to carry that weight around (it was!!!) Then asked if I had a c-section (in a kind of "confirming" way, not curious about IF I had one, but just sort of assuming) and dropped their jaws about me "doing it naturally." (Though nobody ever gets to the point of asking about whether I did actually do it naturally/without meds....they just fixate on the double vaginal birth as the "natural" thing.) When they learned I was breastfeeding both, they were amazed and in awe.
The midwife in my OB's practice constantly applauds the fact that the boys are exclusively breastfed (she always asks, "No bottles? No anything? Wow, you are amazing!!!") and that's been the other kind of big deal/amazement reaction I've had. I'm not certain if she's really amazed, or if she's just trying to be very positive and supportive. I would rather be supported by someone saying something like, "You are doing a great thing for them, and it must have some difficult moments. You're doing great!" rather than treating it like it's an unbelievable feat or something. I mean, I don't want people to take for granted what I am doing, but heck--I
sort of take it for granted! (I mean, I assume that I will breastfeed them, and that it can be done, and that there's no reason why I shouldn't have this goal.) So it feels awkward to have a big deal made of the fact that I'm even attempting it. Because "it" feels rather like nursing my first child did: very do-able and possible, very frustrating and overwhelming at times, a huge commitment of availability and physicality, but definitely not this impossible thing.
I don't know if I am making sense.