In my opinion, if you do not know the parents then it is always better to go through the teacher. The teacher was there and even if she did not see the incident when it happened, she hopefully still has a better idea of what is going on.
However if I already knew the parent, for example our kids had already had play dates, then I would not consider it out of line if the parent called me and I would call the parent too if something happened.
I have been in both situations. When ds, now 10, was in KG he had sensory issues. He sometimes lashed out if someone pushed him unexpectedly from behind or cornered him. There was one woman who I knew because our sons were friends and we had been to each other’s houses several times. It really hurt when I found out that she had repeatedly complained about my son to
The teacher and never said anything to me. My son really liked her son. I felt that she could have talked to me about it!
On the other hand my son has also come home saying he was hit,shoved or pushed. If I did not really know the parents and if I felt it was an issue, I always contacted the teacher not the parent.
Children will come home saying so and so did this or did that, but it is important to find out the whole picture. Was it an accident? Or maybe the child who was pushed some how made the other child angry? Snatched a toy away for example? I am not saying that justifies hitting, but I just mean that there are always 2 sides and we should not be quick to judge other kids.
However if I already knew the parent, for example our kids had already had play dates, then I would not consider it out of line if the parent called me and I would call the parent too if something happened.
I have been in both situations. When ds, now 10, was in KG he had sensory issues. He sometimes lashed out if someone pushed him unexpectedly from behind or cornered him. There was one woman who I knew because our sons were friends and we had been to each other’s houses several times. It really hurt when I found out that she had repeatedly complained about my son to
The teacher and never said anything to me. My son really liked her son. I felt that she could have talked to me about it!
On the other hand my son has also come home saying he was hit,shoved or pushed. If I did not really know the parents and if I felt it was an issue, I always contacted the teacher not the parent.
Children will come home saying so and so did this or did that, but it is important to find out the whole picture. Was it an accident? Or maybe the child who was pushed some how made the other child angry? Snatched a toy away for example? I am not saying that justifies hitting, but I just mean that there are always 2 sides and we should not be quick to judge other kids.
I'd suggest meeting with her and the teacher to talk about it. Like you said, the teacher never even mentioned it. Did the teacher mention something about it to the other mom though? Regardless, I'd go through the teacher and not contact the other parent. If the teacher saw nothing then the other parent is just going on what her 6/7 yr old child has told her which could be made up.
