Tandem Nursing Mamas? - Page 3

[apriljoy]

I'm nursing a 7-month-old and a 3.5-year-old. I waver back and forth between wanting to set limits with ds1 to encourage him to wean (don't ask me what I'm thinking here; in reality, setting limits only makes him want to nurse more) and letting him nurse as often as he feels the need. Sometimes I love that our nursing relationship is still alive; other days, I'm painfully jealous of my friends whose children have already weaned. I would LOVE for him to wean, but he's just not ready. And it's not worth it to me to let him cry over something I can so easily provide. And I do want the nursing relationship to end on a good note. If I could just get him to be a little less demanding, I'd probably be alright. It just makes my blood boil when I ask him to wait a few minutes and am met with a tantrum, or when he flips out when I tell him, after a good twenty minutes or so, that I'm ready to do something besides nurse.

So basically, tandem nursing has been an emotional rollercoaster for me, lol. This was a complete jumble, but it feels good to get it out!

And to the PP...the nursies need to rest at night so they can make lots of milk for the next day...that's brilliant!

[Moonchild77]

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HI, I nurse -at demand - my ds1. 2 y and 9 mo and my ds2, 3 weeks old.


Here is a picture (second one, with "Veronica and her 2 sons" and ds2 was 3 days old :-)
http://www.borstvoeding.com/kindjeaa...-meningen.html

Ds1 doesnt nurse in public, but I will not say no, if he wants to.

LOVE nursing, eventhough tandemdnursing is often hard and a lot .....
The nighttime is difficult, but now, my ds1 is sick (fever, runny nose ) and I am soooooooooooooo glad he still nurses!!! ANTIBODIES< here they come!!!

[blueberrystamps]

I just found this thread and didn't want it to get lost on page 3 I think a tandem nursing thread is a great idea.
I am tandem nursing a 3 and 1/2 year old and a 1 1/2 year old it has been alot easier then I thought it would be but I have been a little at my wits end latley and came to mothering today to look at info on weaning my 3 and 1/2 year old I am so glad I found this thread I am totally thinking other wise now .

I think my biggest problem is that I am not great at taking care of my self so if I would do a better job of that then I would not get so annoyed by it.

Any way I am hoping we can keep this thread going.

[MelissaAHM]

Can anyone 'Please' tell me what to expect. I have a 15 month old who nurses quite a bit. DH and I are TTC - I have no idea what to expect as far as nursing while pregnant. I see here, from this thread, that it's possible. Are there any hurdles or challenges I need to be made aware of? I really want to continue nursing DS and he's no where near ready to wean. I'm concerned about when I do get Pregnant I will lose the milk supply. I'm willing to do what it takes to continue bfing for him. Any advice would be appreciated!!! Please!!!

[muppet729]

Well, there are almost always "nursing while pregnant" threads so look for those too, but in a nutshell...

It's hard to know what to expect. I've nursed through two pregnancies and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I had a lot of pain from the start with dd2 and not until wk 16 with dd3. I had to night wean when pregnant with dd3 from the pain although now dd2 has "taken that back" so to speak.

I don't know if I lost my milk supply- never deterred my kids from wanting to nurse, that's for sure. I've heard that there is nothing you can do to boost supply while pregnant because it's hormonal.

The best advice that I would give is to get Hilary Flower's "Adventures in Tandem Nursing". There's a lot of great stuff in there about nursing while pregnant.

[Brightside]

My supply tanked when I got pregnant, and it took me a bit to figure out why DS was having dry diapers. Grrr.

We went through some really hard times - he was nursing round the clock because of lack, got constipated due to relying on me for most of his liquid intake and me not using a sippy cup very much to get him used to it before that, I was very sensitive and things were painful, etc... Things are better now, he drinks and eats a lot more, and mostly comfort nurses now. Also he's sleeping through the night fairly consistently after a really rough period!

So I think it's good to just take things a day at a time. Just when I thought I couldn't take any more nursing he would back off or sleep more and I could regain some sanity. It takes them a bit to adjust, but your LO is a bit older and that might help things too.

Oh, I started eating oatmeal every morning to help boost my supply, and while I don't think it increased, it helped to maintain I believe.

Good luck! That's where we've been. I'm 16 weeks.