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post #21 of 181
Your poor little girl! I think your instincts just took over. He is probably from a generation where not much thought is given to a child's whole being AND he probably deals with some parents who would think what he did was okay.... you know those parents who force their children to sit on Santa's lap for the photo, despite the fact that the poor child is petrified and crying!

I think I would have probably reacted in exactly the same way!
post #22 of 181
I would have went for his jugular vein if he tried to hug my screaming, frightened child. Then, I would have felt embarrassed, too, as everyone looked on. I'm trying to say I totally understand and validate the instinct to protect. I think its important for my children to see that I stand up for them and protect them in situations where others try to do things to them that I don't feel are appropriate. With that said, I would also then calm down and be talking to various Walmart managers about appropriate behavior and the need to educate greeters.
post #23 of 181
Perfect modeling for your kids. Now they know how to act if anyone tries to hug or touch them inappropriately, disability or no disability...it doesn't matter. Don't feel bad about not being polite.
post #24 of 181
Didn't read responses...

Go you Mama! I likely would have flipped on him too. That is just creepy having a total stranger tyring to hug your kids.
post #25 of 181
Your reaction was spot-on, and you don't have to feel bad, but feel REALLY GOOD knowing that you have what it takes to protect your kids even if it doesn't feel "civilized."

You're responsible for your kids, not the greeter's feelings. Even if the greeter had a disability that led to this interaction, it doesn't make what he did right. It doesn't matter if people think they are doing good, if they are not, you have a right to draw the line.

Sanford Strong (LA police officer who does safety seminars) says: "My safety first, your feelings second." That obviously extends to your kids' safety too.
post #26 of 181
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Originally Posted by laohaire View Post
Sanford Strong (LA police officer who does safety seminars) says: "My safety first, your feelings second." That obviously extends to your kids' safety too.
Exactly, that's great advice!

Op, don't feel guilty you didn't do anything wrong. Forcing 'affection' on anyone is wrong and we all have the right to say "no".
post #27 of 181
He tried to HUG your daughter? NOT HIS JOB, not his job at all. I wouldn't feel badly at all for the way that you reacted, Mama... I'd hav ebeen freaking out. Then again I don't like people to even touch DD.

Take care,
El
post #28 of 181
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Update: I called Walmart and after being transferred four times (yes FOUR times) I spoke with a management team member and told her my story. I remembered his name so that helped a lot and she did not seem surprised at all by the comments I made, which leads me to believe he has done this kind of thing before. He appeared NOT to be mentally or physically disabled, but as an RN I know looks can be deceiving. I made it clear I was not out to get the man fired but I wanted him to know what his boundaries are. She assured me she would "look into it" and get back to me. I also got her name and extension number and will call back in a couple days. I will not be shopping there again.
post #29 of 181
I shop at Wal-Mart sometimes, but I am still conscious of Issues with China and Plastic.

I always drive my car sometimes even though I have issues with the war in Iraq, and the mass consumption of fossil fuels.

I probably do lots of things that people don't or can't understand.

None of this however has anything to do with the greeter at Wal-Mart, although I am sorry that it happened.
post #30 of 181
Don't feel guilty for your reaction Mama. You did the right thing. Strangers are not allowed to hug my dc under any circumstance!! Strangers are not allowed to touch my child!!! That man sounds creepy!!!
post #31 of 181
Wow. I think you did the right thing.
post #32 of 181
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Originally Posted by Shami View Post
Perfect modeling for your kids. Now they know how to act if anyone tries to hug or touch them inappropriately, disability or no disability...it doesn't matter. Don't feel bad about not being polite.
This is exactly what I thought. You showed your kids that it's ok to be rude when someone is scaring them or touching them in a way that is uncomfortable to them. That's a good thing.
post #33 of 181
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Originally Posted by JSMa View Post
Didn't read responses...

Go you Mama! I likely would have flipped on him too. That is just creepy having a total stranger tyring to hug your kids.
I only read the first few responses but I'm with you and the other posters, like the one above. In fact, I might even discuss it with the manager. That is way overstepping his job...hugging kids!

I'm a teacher and I get warned about the possible implications of hugging or touching kids in any way who I've formed a relationship with! This guy was clueless and creepy.

No one hugs my kids without my approval/permission! Good job!
post #34 of 181
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"I was just trying to do my job lady.
yeah, his job is to pry small children away from their mothers. I'm pretty sure he could be fired for it or at least get a pretty strong reprimand. touching other peoples children is a pretty big no-no these days
post #35 of 181
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Originally Posted by phoolove View Post
I shop at Wal-Mart sometimes, but I am still conscious of Issues with China and Plastic.

I always drive my car sometimes even though I have issues with the war in Iraq, and the mass consumption of fossil fuels.

I probably do lots of things that people don't or can't understand.

None of this however has anything to do with the greeter at Wal-Mart, although I am sorry that it happened.
I totally agree with the above: I like your response to the previous poster's "not judging" comment better than what I was about to say.

OP -- You've handled it great -- you have nothing to feel bad about!
post #36 of 181
i'm pretty sure 'hug distraught small children' is not in his job description. i think 'wave to costumer, offer sticker' is more like it. you absolutely did the right thing! teaching your children to react loudly and firmly when someone oversteps boundaries like that is exactly what you want to do!! good for you!
post #37 of 181
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Originally Posted by mammal_mama View Post
I totally agree with the above: I like your response to the previous poster's "not judging" comment better than what I was about to say.

OP -- You've handled it great -- you have nothing to feel bad about!
Not to mention that many people are in a financial situation that leaves no choice but to shop at the place offering the lowest prices. To make such statements about people who do shop there is insensitive to people who have to make such choices in order to keep their family afloat without breaking the bank. It's great that you have enough to be able to shop elsewhere. Not everyone does.
post #38 of 181
And OP:
post #39 of 181
Thanks for standing up for your children! What a tough situation!

I am glad you spoke with the manager. Please update us when she calls back.
post #40 of 181
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post
I wonder if this particular Walmart greeter has some sort of disability himself that makes it hard for him to read other people's body languge.
That's what I would assume...the walmarts here seem to hire people from the local assisted care home, so older people with dementia, or people with disabilities...
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