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post #21 of 25
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Originally Posted by Flor View Post
So, our lawyer just got off the phone with cs office, and it turns out that the mother has been collecting welfare in dss's name for a year. She claimed to be the custodial parent and that we had him 9% of the time (we have him 80% on paper, but more irl). She's been caught, so she's freaking out at dss, but even if he did spend everynight with her that he is supposed to, it wouldn't add up to what she's claimed. She also has visitation of two other kids, so I assume she's been collecting on them, too.
Wow, she is in big trouble. Welfare fraud is pretty huge.

I hope something good can come of this.
post #22 of 25
So, now you need to work with DSS to help him understand that the natural consequences she has created for herself are not his fault at all. That was rotten for her to have tried to put it on him, messing with his head like that.:
post #23 of 25
"...turns out that the mother has been collecting welfare in dss's name for a year. She claimed to be the custodial parent and that we had him 9% of the time (we have him 80% on paper, but more irl). She's been caught, so she's freaking out at dss..."

That is truly appalling behavior. APPALLING.
post #24 of 25
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Originally Posted by TruthSetMeFree View Post
So, now you need to work with DSS to help him understand that the natural consequences she has created for herself are not his fault at all. That was rotten for her to have tried to put it on him, messing with his head like that.:
You are right. It is one of those lessons. He is really becoming aware of her issues and (I hope) starting to understand that it doesn't have to do with him.
post #25 of 25
Oh no I'm so sorry for all of you.

If she is literally freaking out at DSS, is it worth looking at a restraining order for his safety??? Physical or emotional?
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